It can’t always be rainbows and butterflies

The inevitable has happened. I started neglecting my blog and writing less and less. And it’s not because I don’t like blogging or writing. And it’s definitely not because I got nothing to say. Believe me, I got plenty of things that I want to share. It’s because most of the things I want to say or write about are negative. You see, I entered somewhat of a “frustration” phase in my life in Nepal. I am annoyed and frustrated by almost everything surrounding me. Don’t get me wrong – it’s not because Nepal is not a good place, or because Nepalis are not nice people. There are plenty awesome things in Nepal and my life in Nepal, like:

1. The super tasty Japanese food I get to have often

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2. Or this amazing view

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3. And the Samosas I raved about on my social media

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4. And especially this spectacular pool I got to enjoy recently.

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But living abroad is a tricky thing. You experience a range of emotions you never even knew existed. And my emotions right now happen to be more negative than positive. I believe it wouldn’t be fair of me to write only negative stuff about Nepal just because of my state of mind. So until my attitude and my feelings change, my blog might be seeing a dry spell. But don’t worry Nepal, it’s me, it’s not you.

13 thoughts on “It can’t always be rainbows and butterflies

  1. I know how you feel friend. Hang in there. That will always happen when you are far from family and friends, and things you have been familiar with all your life. Lots love

  2. I know how you feel, even though I was living there for a much shorter time than you already have. I even face it in my homecountry with my nepalese husband… It is a completely different culture, and even though knowing this in advance it is a very thing when being right in the middle of it. I wish you would write about it, because I am sure alot of people can relate to it.

    About swimming in Nepal: What does women actually wear? Mu husband said they are wearing some kind of mix between swimming suits and dresses? If I was going to enter a swimminpool in Nepal I would be very unsure what to wear. And there might also be differences depending on where you are swimming too, because at some places there might be only tourists?

    • I’ll think about writing about battling with culture shock. It’s something that’s hard to admit it’s happening to you.
      As far as pools go, yes, women would generally wear a one-piece that has sort of a small skirt around the waist that reaches just below hips and covers your bottom. However, i usually go the hotel pools where there are tourists in regular swim suits so i don’t feel awkward. Nepali community pools are usually packed and the water and hygiene are of a questionable quality so i try to avoid them.

  3. Hello! I want to tell you that it’s OK and normal to feel the way you are feeling. I hope that talking about it to us, your invisible friends (smile), may help you. Also, remember, you’re becoming a stronger person every day! Hey, where do you buy those samosas? They do look amazing! If you don’t want to say the name on the blog, please send me a message! Thanks! Is that the pool at the Yak & Yeti? The buffet there is one of our favorite places to eat in Kathmandu! Have a good day, take care, and God bless!

    • Thanks so much! Yes, it definitely helps to unload my feelings and not feel the pressure that my blog always needs to be positive.
      For samosas, i don’t know the name of the shop, but it’s a tiny local place in dhobighat. I like that they are not spicy, AT ALL!
      And the pool is at Hyatt. Expensive, but the brunch and atmosphere are so worth it! Only for special occasions though 🙂

      • Yes, I should have known that it was the Hyatt, as the Yak & Yeti’s pool is circular. We just ate lunch at the Hyatt a couple of weeks ago–maybe you were one of the swimmers there that day! 🙂
        Also remember that during these severely hot and humid days, it’s easy to feel blah! Anyway, I hope you and your hubby are having a nice weekend and that you have a lovely week!

  4. Dan Dan is my favorite place to eat as well…but I miss fresh sashimi and sushi here…and don’t worry Ms. Z, lets hope you’ll get over the frustrations soon. Trust me, its not just you, although I was born here and have lived here most of my life, I have plenty to complain about!

    • Thanks for reassurance! For whatever reason when a foreigner complains about the country he/she lives in, that always invites negative comments (like: then go home etc.). That’s why I try not to be too critical of Nepal.

  5. Being far from home inevitably stirs up all kinds of emotions. I understand how you feel. Dont be afraid to share those emotions. You might help someone out who is feeling the same as you. 🙂

    • Thanks! Maybe I get brave enough to write about it on the blog. I always hesitate to be too critical of Nepal as that invites negative comments which leave me feeling horrible.

  6. Oh please be critical! But not along the lines of “Nepali’s are nice people. Nepal is a lovely country.” or the opposite. That’s just meaningless. Surely the Earth is wonderful and humanity too?

    Please avoid generalisations. If you identify what is personally difficult and problematic and see that as related to your situation, and decide to share, those of us in similar situations can benefit!

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